I've messed up in my Relationship

You may have found yourself here because:

“My partner keeps bringing it up”
“I said sorry but it’s not enough”
“I hate seeing what I’ve done to them”
“Part of me wants to defend myself”
“I don’t know how to listen without shutting down”
“I’m terrified I’ve ruined everything”
“I don’t want to be this person”
“I thought the affair/lying/messages meant something different”
“I don’t fully understand why I did it”

What often happens after betrayal

After betrayal, many people find themselves stuck in painful cycles, one partner may desperately want things to “move forward”, while the other keeps revisiting what happened because safety and trust still don’t feel restored.

Conversations can become repetitive, emotionally charged, exhausting, or defensive.

Shame, guilt, anger, confusion, reassurance-seeking, emotional withdrawal, and hypervigilance can all become part of the relationship dynamic.

Many people genuinely want repair, but don’t yet know how to stay emotionally present long enough for it to happen.

Therapy isn't about deciding you're a terrible person

Therapy isn’t about deciding you’re a terrible person or endlessly reliving what happened, it’s about slowing things down enough to understand the patterns, disconnection, avoidance, or unmet needs that may have developed over time, both individually and within the relationship.

Many people find themselves caught between shame, defensiveness, guilt, anger, and fear of losing the relationship altogether. Together, we can begin exploring how to take meaningful accountability without collapsing into self-hatred, how to tolerate difficult conversations without shutting down or becoming reactive, and how to listen in a way that helps your partner feel emotionally understood. Where repair is possible and both people are willing, trust is usually rebuilt gradually through consistency, honesty, emotional presence, and learning new ways of relating to each other.

What would you like to change?

Many people come to therapy feeling stuck between guilt, resentment, fear, confusion, longing, or emotional exhaustion.

Often, they don’t just want the arguments to stop, they want to feel closer, calmer, more honest, more connected, and more able to communicate without things escalating or shutting down. Therapy can offer a space to better understand yourself, your relationship patterns, and what meaningful repair or change might look like for you moving forward.

I offer relationship-focused individual therapy for adults wanting to better understand themselves, improve communication, and explore whether repair, reconnection, or change is possible.