How Embracing Compliments Benefits Your Child:

Embracing Compliments: Helping your child feel seen

Compliments are small but powerful. When a teacher says, “Your child is so polite,” or a friend mentions how kind they are, it’s tempting to shrug it off with, “Well, you should see them at home!”

It’s meant as a joke, but it can take away from the moment — and your child might miss out on the boost.

Why We Brush Off Praise

• Don’t want to brag – I think we all worry about looking boastful.

• Self-doubt – Compliments about our child can stir up our own insecurities.

• Wanting to relate – It can feel easier to connect with others over struggles than successes.

How to Receive Compliments with Ease

• Pause first – Take a breath before replying.

• Say a simple “thank you” – Short and warm is perfect.

• Share the joy – “We’re really proud of them too.”

• Keep it positive – Even if home feels different, you can say, “That’s lovely to hear.”

• Name their strengths – Kids love to hear what we notice:

  • “You’re great at encouraging others.”

  • “I love your creative ideas.”

Why It Matters

• Builds self-esteem – Kids feel seen and valued.

• Encourages good behaviour – Positive feedback motivates them.

• Strengthens bonds – Your pride shows them they matter.

• Teaches social skills – You model how to receive kindness gracefully.

Final Thought

Life gives us plenty of tricky moments. When a compliment comes your way, you could challenge yourself to simply take it. A simple “thank you” can lift your child, strengthen your bond, and spread a little extra positivity.