You care about your partner, and you don't want things to stay like this. It's tempting to focus on what your partner needs to change, but that's a road to feeling powerless and resentful, because you can't easily change someone else. Focusing on your own part instead is the harder, braver move, and it's also the one that actually works. This isn't about becoming smaller, more apologetic, or endlessly compliant. It's about building real capacity to stay connected, even when things get hard.
I work with people who are ready to do exactly that: not because they're depressed or defeated, but because they want to use this tension to make bold, deliberate change, in small, steady steps that build real capacity in the relationship and beyond it.
Common Issues I Can Support You With
People I work with often say things like…
"My partner is so unhappy and I'm scared they'll leave, but I don't know how to fix this."
"I've been unfaithful - or they have - and I don't know if we can come back from it."
"I keep checking out… on my phone, online, anywhere but actually being present."
"It wasn't really about wanting someone else, I don't even know why I do it, but now she thinks I want to leave her."
"She says I don't listen, that I don't 'get it'… and I honestly don't know what she wants from me."
"On paper my life is good, but at home it feels tense, distant and lonely."
If any of that sounds familiar, you're in the right place:
I offer one-to-one therapy for people who want to take their relationship seriously, whether you're dealing with betrayal, compulsive behaviour, disconnection, or the growing sense that something needs to change before it's too late.
Most of my clients are men - though I also work with women facing similar patterns - decent, thoughtful people who care about their partner and want to make things better. They're often at a point where something has gone wrong - or keeps going wrong - and they don't want to keep repeating the same patterns.
Together, we slow things down so you can really see what's happening, understand your partner more clearly, and recognise where you have the power to do something different.
I don't sit in judgement, I help you make sense of what's going on, take responsibility without drowning in shame, and find practical ways to show up differently in your relationship, building real strength, not just apology and waiting around hoping for forgiveness.
If you're looking for individual therapy for relationship difficulties in Peterborough- or online anywhere in the UK - this is the work I do every day.
You don't have to do this on your own.
Hi I'm Lou Crosby
When your relationship looks fine on the outside, but doesn't feel it underneath
A qualified BSc (Hons) Counsellor and Psychotherapist, based in Peterborough, Cambridgeshire.
I work with men who feel disconnected in their relationships, whether that shows up as distance, tension, or a loss or mismatch of intimacy.
This isn't about being labelled the problem, it's individual work that frees you up to become the one driving change with your partner, rather than waiting to be fixed or managed.
Together, we'll explore what's happening beneath the surface, so you can access your more generous, curious side, even when things feel tense, and rebuild genuine closeness.
Ready to talk?
Book a free 15-minute consultation or send me a message to see if therapy feels right for you.
About Lou
I take an active, supportive role in your therapy, guiding you as we work through what's keeping you from the relationship you actually want.
Together, we'll make sense of your self-doubt, anxiety, or confusion, and I'll help you build practical relational skills you can actually use in your day-to-day life.
When we explore new ways forward, I'll encourage you to try them at your own pace, actively supporting you to find your voice and take action in ways that genuinely work for you'
This isn't just about being heard and gaining insight, it's about doing things differently, in small steady steps, in a way that feels right for you.
How I Can Help You
I specialise in working with relationship difficulties, supporting people who care about their partner, but know something isn't working and don't want things to keep going the way they are.
You might be dealing with tension that keeps resurfacing, a breakdown in trust, or a growing sense of distance between you. You may want things to feel closer, easier, or more connected, but instead find yourselves caught in cycles of blame, misunderstanding, or withdrawal
This is individual therapy, not couples work. It's a space just for you, to step back and really see what's happening, so you can become the one driving change, rather than waiting for your partner to change first.
Together, we'll slow things down, make sense of what's been going on, and focus on what you can do differently. That might mean learning how to communicate more clearly, take responsibility in a way that actually helps, or show up in your relationship in a way that rebuilds trust and connection.
1 hr 30 min
95 British pounds
1 hr
75 British pounds
Ready to Get Started?
I offer individual
counselling from my private therapy space in the north of Peterborough, with free parking and the option to meet online anywhere in the UK.
You don't need a referral, you can make an appointment directly with me.
Your first session is an opportunity to see if we’re a good fit and to discuss what you’d like to get from therapy.